The dilemma of self - help articles

To be honest, for the most part of my life I have been a self-help hog.

You give me any article with a click- baity tittle something on the lines like,

3 tips to change your life and become hyperproductive
20 small habits that will boost your life
The only life advice you need

chances are I would have clicked on it. Oogled on its content, given the circuits in my brain instant, feel-good fodder (just found the title to my next blog, Self-help = Feel good fodder) and then moved on feeling great about reading that piece of information....days later life is still the same.

After analyzing 85 billion articles from the domain of self-help and going 'Ah Haa' over each one of them, I noticed a few things, a few universal truths

Do/Doing is the only way forward
Do'Doing leads to unknown failures, and them failures make live beautiful going forward
Fear is real, Fear is felt by everyone
Progress is a subjective thing, some take huge strides so go the baby steps route
XYZ
ABC
123

Sorry, I forgot that I am not an accomplished self-help author yet, so you would have seen right through the bullshit of the last three points.

Well moving on...

(this blog got extended from its previously assumed timeline by a one full day)

Self-help articles are shit because if you ask some of your most accomplished friends, friends who have done some big ass SHIT in their lives, chances are they haven't even read half or even quarter of the self-help shit (quite literal) that you have.

They instead studied with an intention to apply,

then they studied a bit more

Then perhaps gave an exam

Reviews their answers and went about studying even more.

Hung around with like-minded people and shared their observations or something

Imagine a gathering of self - help hogs......all sharing their version of being a victim, how there's is a much graver situation. Talk talk talking on strategies to improve but then not actually improving and then finding themselves in another meeting.

I kinda learned this that reading on improving myself isn't improving myself, its a delusion and a dangerous one that too.

Instead, these days I am spending time on doing more.

what am I doing more as opposed to earlier

Write .....like this shitty blog (if you liked it then it's not that shitty I suppose)

Gym...this came naturally to me so I am going big on it

I have got other things planned and I am executing them one step at a time.

Heres a picture to improve my blogs aesthetics and stuff,

Photo by Edwin Andrade on Unsplash

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